I don’t write about myself enough. I mean, the site is literally my name.
It’s a combination of wanting to deliver value to everyone who blesses me by visiting, and because I don’t like to talk about myself. But I’m hoping to become more vulnerable, to be more authentic and to be more transparent.
No better person to make me change than my newborn son.
There are few life changing events I’ve experienced that even come close to seeing my son for the first time. Getting married was great, but we had been together so long it just felt natural. Graduating high school, the University of Maryland, and later MIT were all great moments, but not even close. Maybe my own birth, but, oddly, I don’t remember a lot about it.
I talk about traveling, working in tech, and personal finances here. Our newest addition will be impacting all 3.
I’m excited to take him along on trips and getting his first passport stamp before he turns 1 (2 if my wife wins). If I’m eventually successful in moving out of the country, he’ll get exposure to experiences I didn’t have until my late 20’s (OK … I did go to Canada to visit my aunt as a kid, but Canada doesn’t count). But, while the thought of a 12 hour flight with a toddler kicking seats and screaming is terrifying … I’ll figure it out.
I am not a good example of work-life balance (as I blog and double down on real estate instead of napping between feedings), but it is something I’ll figure out and adjust. I remember waiting up late as a kid for my Father to come home from work. There was a lot of financial benefit for our entire family from the sacrifice, but I’m trying to one up him. I’m excited to see what this looks like.
And lastly, the finances.
Now, in addition to my goals of retiring early on a beach, I need to prepare for 4 years of MIT in 2035, which I assume will be $1M. And given how insane child care is, my whole idea of a budget had to change. Budgeting has never been an issue, but now I’ll have to say “no” to him instead of just me and the Mrs.
With all that being said, I love him so much. I’m excited to get to know him one day at a time and I have a new sense of purpose I never had before. But, just like with this site, I’m excited to grow personally. I’m excited to grow and learn in a completely new way and spend all day worrying about someone who needs it.
Another nice post Damien. Congratulations on becoming a father. It is definitely a shock to the system – we went from 0-2 and with #3 impending, we will be running a zone defense.
You mention the subject of flights – our little guys have been pretty well traveled in their first 2.5 years on the planet (UK twice, San Diego, Colorado, Florida and WashingtonDC). All you need to know is that there is a difficult age for flying which is post-crawling, pre-Disney (which I reckon is around the 12-18 month range). Otherwise it is a doddle (ish).
Enjoy and continued good luck
Thanks Mark. I’ve heard that a few times and that now is the best time to put him on a plane. It’s hard to imagine a time where he doesn’t just look up and is happy to simply be able to look up.
Personally, the terrible twos and planes fill me with a deep down fear in my soul.
I totally second traveling with your baby!!! We did South Africa with a then 11-month old Sky, only bc I signed up for a work trip a year in advance not realizing that I wouldn’t be ready to go halfway around the world without my baby, and it was nothing short of amazing, and I felt like a total BOSS after. Limited mobility is harder for toddlers than infants so I’d vote to go earlier than later, and ask for the bulkhead seats!!!! Congrats again, welcome to the club, and thank you for sharing your joy with the masses!
Thanks Alisa.
If you want to help me convince the real decision maker (my wife) that now is the best time to get him flying, all the help would be well appreciated. Lol.
Congratulations, Damien! I am so excited to witness this journey and have our kids become friends. You are going to do great and figure it out, one day at a time. Each day will be different and filled with challenges, milestones, and most of all, memories! Enjoy the journey as it is a great blessing and one of the best jobs and experiences you will ever have!
Thanks Shana.
BTW, changing diapers has been just as terrifying as expected. The number of times I’ve been almost urinated on has been more than I can count.
Congratulations in becoming a father ! Say hi to the little one!
Thanks man. Just trying to catch up to you, lol.
Congrats Damien! You’re going to be an incredible father :-).
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Damien,
I have recently discovered your blog as well as Wealth Noir and I will encourage you to keep on telling the stories of living as you live them. As I leave this comment, your son is ayear older and I am reminded of how I felt the day my daughter was born. She’s now nearly 19 and so much has been experienced as parent. Just today I was rereading David Spangler’s “Parent as Mystic, Mystic as Parent” and was revisiting the inner and dialogues I have had, shared, offered, and received from fellow parents/mystics with the prime directive of raising children well, loving them through every age and stage of development, and doing best and right by them as the humans we are ourselves. I look forward to your future shares and posts. Blessings. Deborah